Demagnetize from Toxic Relationships 🧲🙅♀️
FROM SOMATIC THERAPY TO SMASHING THE PATRIARCHY. TOGETHER.
START HERE, BITCH
Relationship patterns start in the nervous system
Something’s stirring within you. We understand that healing the deepest root cause of old, lopsided, harm-based relationship patterns. We understand that healing the deepest root cause of old, lopsided, harm-based relationship patterns.
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THE RELATIONSHIP SKELETON KEY™
Talk about relationship patterns, how they form; attachment and somatic / nervous system science.
Healing relationship patterns born in trauma
FROM POWER-OVER TO POWER-WITH
Talk about relationship patterns, how they form; attachment and somatic / nervous system science. Macro and micro, healing at the deepest root. Here’s what we’re doing, and how we see that it works. What is RR&R about, primary goal, focus
Getting Started
3 PATHS TOWARD RECIPROCAL RELATIONSHIPS… FINALLY
The ways we offer to accomplish the goals explained above.
Inner Healing (Micro)
It’s inner work with a macro lens. Liberation-centered 1:1 psychotherapy, Somatic Experiencing, intimate therapeutic groups, and relational therapy.
Activism (Macro)
It’s macro work with a somatic focus. If we stay connected to our bodies and our relationships, we can change power-over systems. Book studies, direct activism
Podcast
Wanna just sit back and listen for a while? Hell yes. Grab your favorite tea and cat blanket, and hear from top experts in the fields of somatics, neuroscience, history and more, as we ask the ultimate question:
Ready for relationships that are life-giving instead of depleting?
(…but starting to doubt that that even exists…? 😬)
Are you always taking the blame for things going wrong in the relationship? Other person not willing to do the work? Feel alone in propping up the relationship?
No matter how much you try, do you feel perpetually lonely?
Already done so much therapy & self-awareness work, but still not seeing actual results?
Thought you delt with this relationship pattern already?
Sensitive, empathic, fiery, (maybe even spiritually gifted..), & a penchant for collective justice?
Looking for a grounded, scientific approach that leaves room for magic?
Do you survive the summer with spooky movies and wishing it would thunderstorm?
Recovering “good girl?”
Outgrowing your former friends (and haven’t found new friends yet)?
Boundaries are the distance where I can love both you and me at the same time.
— Prentis Hemphill
More about psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy that addresses the root cause in the attachment and nervous system.
Root-cause somatic psychotherapy
Psychotherapy that addresses the root cause in the attachment and nervous system.
Note from our Founder
Hey you, my name is Liz. Licensed Psychotherapist, LPC-MHSP Clinical Licensure Supervisor for TN, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner in Training.
What we stand for
I’m a white-bodied human animal & psychotherapist on a mission to help heal the root cause of oppression-based relationship patterns, such as from the effects of domestic violence. To heal these patterns at the deepest root level, I believe this also means standing for collective liberation for all humxns, animals, and the Earth. Micro and macro.
To be congruent with this personal and professional goal, I make every, ever-evolving effort in my business and brand to be anti-genocide, anti-ableist, anti-racist, anti-anthropocentric, and gender-affirming. I strive to be a welcome, safe, and inclusive space for all genders, gender identities, bodies, bodies of culture, ability levels, sexual orientations, and religious beliefs. Rose, Raven & Roar™ is a completely vegan and cruelty-free business and brand.
For myself, I make continual efforts to examine and heal internal imprints and conditionings of white supremacy, including complicity and collusion with a system that has kept Black, Brown, Indigenous, LGBTQIA+, and bodies with disabilities down.
Next sections: blog
(more on Inner Healing page?) what does relationship pattern healing look like?: Not feeling so led in relationships by fear of rejection or people-pleasing, but from your actual, authentic self; recovering from the effects of dv & going on to have fulfilling, reciprocal relationships; being able to have more capacity in relationships to hold complexity, not run right out the door at first hint of conflict
RR&R pillars (About / Method page): total sovereignty; sovereignty/autonomy, personal authority through the body; total liberation for all beings, veganism as including animals and planet in the fight for total liberation; nature, coming back to natural cycles and seasons; ever practicing power-with instead of power-over
Method — healing power/control relationship patterns through somatic methods, nature, etc.
You’re more Morticia than ___. If you were a Barbie… You’re if __ and __ had a baby
For weird, spooky, pissed off cat folk
(homepage) link to Podcast, Pinterest, Blogs, RR&R method
You’re like if Morticia studied neuroscience and protested for Trans rights while listening to 80’s rock
goal for homepage / website — newsletter | blogs, places on homepage, etc., lead to freebie/newsletter
Homepage — the goal of RR&R:
You’re like Morticia + science nerd protesting for trans rights.
We’re into it, and we’re into you.
Complex Relationship Trauma Healing, from the Nervous System to Collective Justice
FOR WEIRD, SPOOKY, PISSED OFF CAT LADIES
Something’s stirring within you. We understand that healing the deepest root cause of old, lopsided, harm-based relationship patterns means not only looking deeply on the inside, but also a deep look at the outside (power-over systems, structures, the history
Complex relationship trauma healing, from the nervous system to collective justice. For weird, spooky, pissed of cat ladies.
Offerings
We recognize that to truly reach the core of shifting our relationship patterns, we must take a micro AND macro approach.
Psychotherapy
Inner healing with a systemic, liberation-centered lens. Polyvagal, SE™, attachment therapies
Events & Retreats
Witches tea party, burlesque pleasure retreat, inner child play date, or rage release dance party anyone? We do it all, and just getting started. (one-offs
LPC Supervision
It’s all in the nervous system. With gentle methods that work with your body instead of against it, we can do this.
Group Journeys (Spaces?)
From intimate, deep-dive therapy groups to our online membership space, The Lair™, (more like journeys, from online to in-person, from therapeutic to just togetherness)
Activism
Witches for Total Liberation™ is our space for macro-level relationship pattern healing. From book clubs, deep discussions & fundraising. Direct action, book studies, discussion groups, groups for connection
Podcast
The Relationship Skeleton Key™… your cozy online nook for
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Conflict sucks, and there will never be a way around that, unfortunately. But we also can’t achieve secure attachment without it.
In safe relationships, working through conflict is the route to deep intimacy, trust, and ever-growing safety. Download my step-by-step quick guide to demystify the process!
The Next Chapter in Healing
Have actual healthy relationships after a lifetime of bad ones?
Hell yes. It’s slow, but so doable. We demystify the process by working directly with the nervous system. Did you know that a major reason relationship patterns repeat is simply due to nervous system familiarity?
So 👉 Healthy relationships feel unfamiliar = my nervous system registers them as unsafe = I may unconsciously move away from them.
When we learn to speak the nervous system’s language, we can “show” it that healthy relationships are safe. That’s it; no big secret.
If you’re looking for liberation-centered, body-based, systemic methods to address and heal the ROOT cause, with a magical ✨ twist, I’d love to chat!
Elizabeth DeVaughn, LPC-MHSP | Clinical Psychotherapist, LPC-MHSP Clinical Supervisor, Somatic Coach, Relationship & Complex Trauma Specialist
Any of these resonate?
You thought you dealt with this pattern already
Recovering good girl, perfectionist, and relationship chameleon
You’re ready for the next step after talk therapy; ready for somatic root-cause work
You’re deconstructing all kinds of systems: family patterns, family “rules” and roles, religious systems, political systems
Witchy b*tch done with narcissists
Really to cut the sh*t & get to work with a grounded, scientific approach that also makes room for magic & spiritual practices 🔮✨
Deep feeler, huge heart, fiery soul, sensitive & weird AF
I hear you. I got you. I am you.
I’m obsessed with the root cause. After 13 years in practice, I’ve landed on an ever-evolving group of modalities that I think can get us there: therapies that reconnect us with our bodies, nervous systems, exiled inner parts, with nature and each other, centered in a rageful howl & ongoing inquiry on achieving total collective liberation.
From 1:1 somatic healing sessions, to burlesque retreats, feminist book clubs, activism, witches tea parties & more, I’m here to help you heal the deepest root cause of relationship patterns based in the residual trauma of power and control,
allowing you to have relationships based in safety, reciprocity, and joy…finally.
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WHAT I HELP WITH
Healing from Domestic Violence
Currently surviving abuse must be treated much differently than outside of abuse. I would love to support you.
Family Relationships & Boundaries
From setting (and keeping) new boundaries, to forging new family relationships, I got you… I am you.
Healing Complex Trauma
It’s all in the nervous system. With gentle methods that work with your body instead of against it, we can do this.
Spirituality, Religion, & Witchiness
From spiritual abuse, to finding your autonomous place within your religion, to, “am I a Witch?”, I would love to help.
Developing New Relationship Patterns
New relationship patterns = “showing” the nervous system that it’s safe to have something it never had. Let’s do this.
Ready for Root Cause Healing
Talk therapy helped, and it got you here. But you’re done messing around. Time for the root cause in the body, now.
Applications Now Open!
Applications Now Open!
It’s Here!
SECURE
3-MONTH JOURNEY: FROM DATING DRAMA TO SECURELY ATTACHED
Specifically designed for non-muggles, SECURE™ is a special collaboration between my dear friend, Ryan Hagan (Nervous System Coach, psychic medium, Reiki Master & more) and myself to help spiritual AF folx quit beating their head against the wall with Law of Attraction and learn a demystified nervous system approach to love.
THERAPEUTIC SERVICES
1:1 Somatic Healing
A non-pathologizing, somatic approach to healing the root cause via psychotherapy or coaching: Read more here.
Retreats & Events
It shouldn’t be a somber parade. Trauma resolution must incorporate togetherness and FUN. See all naughty sh*t here!
Group Programs
The best of both worlds: personalized somatic healing + the power of connection. See current program here!
APPROACH
From 1:1 sessions to retreats, book clubs, witch parades & beyond, here are the pillars of my approach to healing the deepest root cause of oppressive-based relationship patterns…for GOOD.
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Within any of our containers that specifically include a therapeutic component (1:1 psychotherapy, coaching, or therapeutic programs), I use approaches that:
are based in the root cause (body, nervous system, systemic issues) rather than symptoms only
are non-pathologizing
address our innate connection with nature,
are rooted in collective liberation & anti-oppression
Examples of modalities include:
Somatic Experiencing®
Parts Work
Attachment & attunement based methods
Nature-based methods
Working with Archetypes to help us access exiled parts of ourselves
Invitations to bring in our cultural spiritual and magical practices
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A traditional, Western psychotherapy model has roots in capitalist white supremacy, which can be felt in a very pathologizing model of “healing.” It’s very “good/bad,” “right/wrong,” with “right” being a model of health centered in whiteness and privilege.
A model of healing centered in collective liberation looks not only at internal factors (the nervous system, emotions, inner parts, etc.), but it greatly factors in the systems we are a part of (political, cultural, oppressive, etc.).
Plainly, if we are only looking at internal factors that may have led to “anxiety” without also looking at the traumatizing impact of an oppressive political system, especially for marginalized folx, that’s a problem.
To stay aligned with a liberation-centered model of healing, I do my absolute best to keep checking in with my own biases rooted in privilege. I do this mostly through trainings, supervision, and regular peer consultations.
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Finding my unique, sovereign connection with spirituality — after healing from religious and spiritual trauma — has been a major factor in my healing.
Please know that spirituality does NOT have to come into play with any healing practice we do. And also know that you are 100% welcome to bring any type of religious, spiritual, ancestral, or cultural practice that’s important to you, or that you’d like to explore.
Trauma not only disrupts our connection with ourselves and with each other, but also from a sense of spirit, connection with nature, with oneness, or however you like to think of it. Rebuilding this connection in a way that’s authentic to you can bring lots of healing and life force energy to a trauma healing path.
I myself don’t identify with a particular religion, though I do draw from my Celtic roots with Celtic Paganism and Druidry (very nature-based… I talk to the grass, to the animals, and to my Guides, particularly The Morrigan 🐦⬛)
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We are mammals, which means we are social; we are not meant to heal on an island.
Some of the most healing mechanisms on Earth are simply circling together, rhythming together, and seeing + being seen. That’s it.
Trauma has a way of propelling us toward isolation, which makes everything worse. By growing our capacity to connect, be in togetherness, and find our own unique boundaries that promote intimacy, we tap into the most innate healing available.
Since trauma is relational, and our core mission is helping you heal relationship patterns, all of our programs have elements of connection with others, with self, with nature, and with the All.
TRAINING SERVICES
Consultation & Training
For businesses who value a trauma-informed approach & want to learn how to incorporate it: Learn more.
LPC-MHSP Supervision
For pre-licensed therapists in TN who want an approach focused on root-cause healing and collective liberation: More
Speaking
Looking for a speaker or panelist on conflict, trauma, relationships, and anything between? Let’s chat.
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