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(more on Inner Healing page?) what does relationship pattern healing look like?: Not feeling so led in relationships by fear of rejection or people-pleasing, but from your actual, authentic self; recovering from the effects of dv & going on to have fulfilling, reciprocal relationships; being able to have more capacity in relationships to hold complexity, not run right out the door at first hint of conflict

RR&R pillars (About / Method page): total sovereignty; sovereignty/autonomy, personal authority through the body; total liberation for all beings, veganism as including animals and planet in the fight for total liberation; nature, coming back to natural cycles and seasons; ever practicing power-with instead of power-over

Method — healing power/control relationship patterns through somatic methods, nature, etc.

You’re more Morticia than ___. If you were a Barbie… You’re if __ and __ had a baby | you’re like if Morticia, Miss Frizzle, and RBG had a baby | You’re like if a haunted, Victorian doll; You’re more haunted Victorian doll than (Barbie? Hot girl summer?); You’re like___ Barbie | ok, if you’ve read this far, you must be as weird as we are, what book are you reading? | These can also be on merch, shirts, other pages

(potential clients say things like) I really don’t want to pass these patterns along to my kids;

What keeps them up at 2am - is my relationship workable? (list it out like this when I list areas of focus (dv, religious trauma, etc.?) )

Services / offerings — 1:1 therapy & SE sessions, Read Like a Witch, Vamp Camp (in collab with Wayward Pixie), licensure supervision, The Roar

For weird, spooky, pissed off cat folk

(homepage) link to Podcast, Pinterest, Blogs, RR&R method

You’re like if Morticia studied neuroscience and protested for Trans rights while listening to 80’s rock

goal for homepage / website — newsletter | blogs, places on homepage, etc., lead to freebie/newsletter

Homepage — the goal of RR&R:

Who are our clients: me, belonging, dv, think of my closest clients

Our clients: have maybe been harmed by / outgrown other therapies, now very discerning & scour every inch of therapy pages at 2am (so do we)

Being ME ❤️; personal shares, why this work matters to me, my personal journey belonging, feeling dead from trauma; more explanation about my trainings and mentorship

From “Healing relationship patterns born from complex trauma” section on homepage: Talk about relationship patterns, how they form; attachment and somatic / nervous system science. Macro and micro, healing at the deepest root. Here’s what we’re doing, and how we see that it works. What is RR&R about, primary goal, focus

to be in more authenticity and less sales-y, maybe “the clients we support are “ instead of “are you tired of…?”

What we stand for page - justice statement, how we view healing (inner + outer)

Specialties section - button to a page that talks about each specialty (dv, etc.; educational, maybe leads to a blog post which then leads to freebie/newsletter), and on that page, list buttons to both freebie (if you’d like resources to go deeper in this, we have a free cheat sheet as part of a bigger bundle) and our therapy/somatic sessions page (if you want to learn more about how we hold space for/approach this kind of healing

Explain clearly on freebie sign-up that they’ll be added to our newsletter; clear, consensual

1:1 clinical + therapeutic session page: we strive to hold containers that allow for deeper relational, somatic healing (more here… roots of deep belonging, the earth; we think systemically, we don’t get to the core of things with techniques only) without the pathologizing and structures that reinforce and uphold systems of oppression, power-over, hierarchy, white supremacy, etc. | we recognize that the founding of western psych is build on appropriation, whiteness | therapeutic work based in soul, reconnection with our bodies, wild, land, ancestral healing, ritual, therapeutic and clinical tools available to help if that’s what would be most supportive

*In all of this, ground into me, my body, (easy to get into comparison, lose my center, copy what others say), remember what drives me, connect with my core, go hike <3

all email sign-up buttons — “check your promotional/spam folders; move it to your inbox” in post-submit

1:1 page

• framework for healing: micro + macro

  • we see integral part of the healing framework is examining the macro systems of power and how | how unintegrated trauma can become power-over, micro and macro

  • very relational, centered on relation; we see healing / wounds as relational, to self, parts, others, to Earth, animals, conditioned oppressive culture / systems of hierarchy that condition us to be disconnected relationally and to be in relation in a way that oppresses

  • very, very relational. we’re better when we’re connected (my Native mentor — needs a mirror, stuck in “no one mirrors/reflects me,” so it hasn’t moved from that? We do need those reflections, but when it never moves from that

  • you are your own expert (constantly checking in with you to see if I’m capturing you accurately, if I’m with you, seeing you, oriented to you

  • we are in deep relationship with the collective + the earth, we feel that our healing must take an inside out-outside in approach, must be in-step with our intrinsic relationship with the All (western culture has made it too individualistic

  • from power-over to reciprocity in relationships, and how our long-forgotten connection with nature can show us this (flower essenses, book); deep examination and holding of how hyper-individualism has hurt us, our relationships, our macro systems, and has infiltrated the healing/wellness/therapy space to be this hyper-productive, fix-it, pathologizing, spiraling and spiraling on the inside always looking for more things to fix, perfect, hyper-focus on, becoming super-human/no longer human, pick ourselves apart into perfect mechanical machines

  • we see loss of / disconnected relationship with nature/Earth as intrinsically connected with how our relationships are/have been shaped (lots learned, referenced in book) - built on performance, disconnection, exploitation, in both macro and micro relationship systems, doing instead of being & connecting, one-sided

    • earth shows us seasonal, reciprocity

(RR&R check-in + more) Holding own shape in relationships, flexible enough to grow and evolve within self and relationship, not so flimsy that it totally loses shape / shifts shape in relational space; flexibility to shape shift enough to hold what’s needed/happening in the relationship ; not so rigid that there’s no room for growth, evolution - in danger of applying same blueprint to everyone even though there could be space (for rupture, repair)

• art, how does your shape change when someone walks into a room?

• if most of shape changes too much, does any part of your body hold its shape? feel firmer?

• integrate these practices with politicized somatic practice of touching in with self and then other, sense that I still exist when there is other

long-term relationships — take time to reorient to each other

Photos, art / pics - more faces, joy (I’ve been healing for years

Built on deep rigorous academic, research, attachment and somatic science, deep study and reflection of history, seeing how political and macro (oppressive or supportive, or a blend) environments shape us & vice versa, (culture, magic, Earth, liberation, return to ancestry and power of simple connection and ritual, power of just being connected, future: eco-psychology

Raven - western culture, we have been conditioned to be terrified of death

RR&R - life-giving relationships after complex trauma

• complex trauma: we include generational, white supremacy, historical, trauma from disconnection with the earth

• keeping in mind, the target audience is dv survivors and the like, ppl wanting better relationships after hard/traumatic ones, who already have at least a whisper for justice, have always felt misunderstood, sensitive, many neurodiveregent, very deep feelers, sensitives (gifted? want to explore spiritual gifts perhaps), deep well of emotions and capacity for connection, really want to build relationship containers that support the level of depth and deep connection they crave (us help them gain capacity, among other aspects of healing, to support this)

  • introducing / inviting them into a bigger picture of healing - return to communal (from Western hyper-individualism, relationships build on disconnection), restore relationship with nature and animals (teach how this may relate to relationship patterns based in disconnection and exploitation), collective justice as relational (looking at political landscapes, history, etc.)

  • they’re already really open, maleable to creating life-giving relationships, they’ve lived through some shit, have lived p&c / harm, disconnection in relationships

Grounding into what’s most important.. deep, pure love; whimsy, joy funny, me <3

Survival responses stuck in the body, traumatic family dynamics, and survival-based attachment blueprints. That’s a big part of it, but not all.

Growing somatic capacity to hold complexity, emotion, differences while staying in the room, deconstructing the power-over nature of white supremacy and healing the belonging trauma underneath, unraveling the hierarchal idea that we’re separate from the natural world, integrating exiled parts of ourselves, psyche (archetypes), deemed bad by systems of domination, (spooky: darkness, magical/intuitive, more fluid ways of knowing

cycle-breakers

“what we stand for” section (thinking through what to include, layout

• whether here or RR&R about in general, our WHY - lion and lioness collage, think about MY why, what’s most important to me

A place where you truly don’t have to perform, have the polished answer, where you can rest and be held just as you are, so warmly and compassionately

From Complex Trauma Therapies to Decolonizing Book Clubs & More, Dive Deep with Us into the Shift from Harm-Based to Reciprocal Relationship Patterns